Are you quietly struggling with the desire to drink more than you want to? I've been there and unfortunately, I stayed stuck there for far too long because I just couldn't find information or solutions out there for those who overdrink, yet do not consider themselves an alcoholic.
What are the options for overdrinkers who just want to dial back their desire to drink to a quantity and frequency where they used to be that is comfortable?
This middle place I call overdrinking is a gray area that is self-defined. Overdrinking is finding yourself habitually drinking more than you want to. Wanting two separate things (to drink and not to drink) is especially insidious because the tendency is to self-blame and shame. On the surface, this overdrinking struggle appears to be very much a problem of self-control. But, much like being overweight, we all know that there is much more to the story than self-control.
Neurotransmitters, one's genetic propensity to addiction, the primal brain, and understanding how behaviors are learned and unlearned are all involved in the mechanisms that bring us to overdrinking. It is critical to understand how the brain is designed to desire alcohol more and more as time goes by if you want to overcome overdrinking. I've broken all of this down for you in simple to understand terms and created FREE PDF printable worksheets to help you work through the process.
Once you understand, you can give yourself and/or those you love heaps of understanding and support; stop blaming and shaming, and start taking action to overcome overdrinking.
I wrote this three-part series to share what I learned with you; the information that I really needed when I was looking for my own solution to overdrinking. Ire the these the only ways to overcome overdrinking? No. This is simply my account of what worked for me.
The freedom I now have from overdrinking is indescribable. I feel like my old self, one who is in control again. Not only that but thanks to the Sinclair Method, (which is discussed in part III) I know that I will never fall back into the habit of overdrinking again. I grew up with alcoholism in my family. As a result, I have worried about that affecting me for my entire life, so I really can't adequately describe to you how incredibly relieved I feel to finally be free of this lifelong anxiety. You can have this freedom, too. Read the series by using the links below and start experimenting with the extinction methods that appeal to you.
Please give yourself lots of time and the grace to stumble along the road in an imperfect way. Change is always messy and difficult, and it can really help to remind yourself as you embark on this journey that nothing really worth having comes effortlessly. As long as you have a desire to overcome overdrinking, I have every faith that you can and will.
read the stop overdrinking series
This discussion is framed for over-drinkers who want to cut back on their overdrinking habit. Please note that this discussion is not intended for chronic abusers of alcohol who compulsively consume. I am not a doctor, I simply am offering tips and tricks that I’ve used in my own experience in reducing my overdrinking. If you are having a difficult time with urges during abstinence, or are having difficulty sticking to your drink planning after a few weeks, then I encourage you to talk to your doctor or therapist for medical support. Please see the disclosure.